Take it all by Adele

This song is so strong isn't it? Even the the title: take it all.

It is a complete surrender: go ahead, take it all. Whatever you want. Just take it.

I wonder is this a statement out of strenght or weakness?

A deeper look into the lyrics and I would presume that it is a decision out of weakness.

She has given up, she is broken beyond repair. The person who has caused her all this pain, she is giving him

an invitation: Finish it. Finish breaking her. Take it all. Take more pieces of her to break.

She is tired and in this tiredness and brokeness she decides to surrender her all. My concern is, is that the right thing to do?

I do not think so. But such is the broken state that she is in.

Let's observe:

Didn't I give it all,

Tried my best,

Gave you everything I had,

Everything and no less?

Didn't I do it right?

Did I let you down?

First verse shows the state that she is in before giving in and surrendering   She is spent.  She gave all she has. She is questioning herself, because she came to the realization that it wasn't enough. It's all in question form, showing her doubt. 

She doubts if she gave it all (even though deep inside, she knows she did). Why would she do such a thing?

Because this song is breaking down her old belief: she thought if she did her best, gave her all, the guy will stay.

She thought that he would stay, he wouldn't leave. She has wounds from her past. Maybe abandonment issues from her dad or mother? (The song 'hiding my heart hints at this as well. There is a line where she states "like everything I've even known, you disappeared one day" Obviously there is a cycle of abandonment. She is repeating her past. The ghost of the past keep reapearring in her present relatinoships. She has an internal idea, she thinks if she stays if she gives her all, she can fix it. Not just fix the relationship (by making him stay) but also fix the abandonment issues that she has.  

But this fallacy is faulty. Its like taking leaves and plucking them out. If the tree is not cut out by the root, the same leaves will show up again.  

So the first verse, she is disappointed, doubtful, still faithful. She wants him back. She wants him to stay. She wants to 'fix it'. She is wondering if there is more of her to give. Again, still believing that she needs to give more to make the relationship work.

Where is the guy all this? Is he deserving? Has he proven himself? We do not know yet. 

Next verse: 

Maybe you got too used to

Well, having me around.

Still how can you walk away

From all my tears?

It's gonna be an empty road

Without me right here.

I think we can end all the analysis right.  Here is all the answers!!!

He got 'used to her being around' AKA he's taking her for granted.  If she was healthy and had no issues, she would 

have seen this as a red flag to leave him alone. She is more invested into this relatioship than he is!!!

He 'walked away from all her tears"... Hello??? Another red flag. He wasn't mature enough to understand her when

she was falling apart (tired of giving her all). This is a boy, trying to appear a man. Instead of offering her his strenght, his

weakness shows up at this moment.  The man, who is supposed to fulfill the childhood fantasy of being a prince to rescue the princess, instead he does the unthinkable: he runs away. He lives the princes inside the castle, with that horrible dragon. More so, he's not even willing to fight for her. He commits a fallacy by drinking from her beauty. He thinks she can validate him. And in her brokenness, she's looking to him to validate her. In the end, its all a mess since its a horrible foundation, this relationship.. brokeness. It's what they have in common. Probably the reason why they are attracted to each other. "Its going to be an empty road without me right here.' The woman is pulling all stops. She has nothing more to manipulate him (treating him nicely and being sweet didn't work as much as she tried). So she is doing something only desperate people do: she is threatening him!!! She threatens that he won't make it without her. Matter of fact, he will miss her so much he will come back!!!

She doesnt realize that if he comes back it's because of need, not of choice. To break this down, he will come back to drink from her fountain again. Being a boy (not yet a man), if he comes back is to have her validate him. To go back to the original cycle, drink from her beauty and she will wait for him to love her. They both do not realize that they are not in a position to love. The love in way that broken people can only do: halfway (if that). They are so needy for love, they are in a position to be parasites (take, take, take until their source of energy dies). This is exactly that is happenin here. The boy took so much, that she is spent.

Still broken with abandonment issues, in her last defeat and dispair she gives him an answer: take it all. She has no more to give. But whatever she has left, she wants him to take it. That way, in her flawed thinking, he will come back.  This is also very detrimental to her and her self worth, because even though she gave it all to him, he still will leave her (apparently when she's crying and needs him most).

This is a very broken relationlship, you can hear the pain in Adele's voice, and her passion when she sings this, as one who has truly lived it. The next verses and chorus just keep repeating the same message with different words. The following verse says:

Maybe I should leave

To help you see

Nothing is better than this

And this is everything we need.

So is it over?

Is this really it?

You've given up so easily,

I thought you loved me more than this.

She thinks that 'maybe' she should leave. The maybe is there to show how against she is in this notion. However, in her desperation, if that is what it would take for him to stay, then she is willing to temporarily separate herself from him. Another broken moment: 'nothing is better than this'. The two depend on each other so much for love, that they cannot imagine a better situation. They confuse their obsession with love. They sin continually. They idolize each other, they drink from their half full cups. They more the pull towards one another, the more suffocated and dissatisfied they are. Not having the wisdom to step away and rethink this, they run to each other faster. Thinking the deeper they know each other, the longer they stay together, then it will work out. This is wrong. It usually gets worse.

They will both drown in their own pools. The air is giong to be expended. They are stuck together in the hips. He becomes her world and her his, they lost their sense of the persons they were before being in this relationship. The relationship becomes like a hospital, a place to rest and heal. They do not realize however, that they more they go to each other, the more broken they become.  

The last verse: 

I will change if I must.
Slow it down and bring it home, I will adjust.
Oh if only, if only you knew,
Everything I do is for you.

she is willing ot change herself (more than she already has). This aspect here shows how deep is her devotion. Just like some people change for something higher than themselves (God, religion, school, parent's good wishes), she is willing to change for him. By change of course, she means give more. change the things about herself that he doesn't like. If only 'he knew'.. clue: he knows that you love him. He is scared of becoming a man, because he has to be a man for you. he has to stand up, to fight for you. He has to be a leader, he has to put his foot down so depression and other horrible things don't enter in the relationship. Letting the woman become the servant like a over-dutiful mother and he is the boy that keeps taking to no end... this is not a relationship.. this is like jail. who will sing up for this? i'm sure honeymoon period was nice. It was on the surface you made each other laugh. But they got addicted to each other, and they lost themselves in the relationship. whoa is me. 'Everything I do, I do for you.'

Done with analysis. What is the answer you may say? To all you broken people, don't get into a relationship if you are empty, lonely and incomplete. A man can never complete you. Be complete before getting into a relationship. Its like getting into a pool without the ability to swim (love). 

The person is looking for who you can bring down, so that you get enough air and stop drowning. The other person, drown from lack of space and air to breathe. The 'love' that was supposed to be an answer, the water that fills you with love.. it becomes a prison, in which both persons become suffocated. So please don't do as Adele says "Take it all."

Looking at it a little deep, this is THE CRITIC.